Killer Orgasms

Killer Orgasms

 

By Glory Fink

 

Sex can be a beautiful and meaningful act. For some couples sex can even help to strengthen and deepen the shared emotional bonds. But sex can also maim and kill when common sense is ignored.

 

The first time I realized that people could die while having consensual sex I was watching the movie Rising Sun starring Sean Connery and Wesley Snipes. The two stars are investigating the strangulation of a young woman at the party of a new Japanese business. Eventually, the two uncover the woman’s fetish for autoerotic asphyxiation, a dirty little secret some people would like to keep hidden.

 

The movie was thought provoking and I talked about autoerotic asphyxiation or AeA with some of my friends. I learned that some very nice girls like to hold their breath right before they orgasm to heighten the sensation. I was surprised at the creativity but I didn’t think much of it until I watched Life as a House years later. Here I am watching a Kevin Kline movie and there is Hayden Christensen masturbating while strangling himself. I guess Anakin wants to make sure we know this is a serious Kevin Kline movie.

 

I found myself disturbed by this scene and I mentioned it to my guy friends to see if anyone knew any guys who pretended to hang themselves while masturbating. Every guy seemed to know of a friend from his youth who did it but no one owned up to doing it. After that, I started paying attention to unexplained hanging suicides of young men especially those in their underwear who didn’t leave a note.

 

I did a little research and uncovered a big taboo. Hundreds of years ago, people observed that hanged criminals had erections after death. People put two and two together and got bigger orgasms. During Victorian times London even had a “Hanged Men’s Club” that aided its members through the autoerotic asphyxiation process safely.

 

While 250 to 1000 deaths are attributed to AeA each year in America most parents are too ashamed to admit that their son was an accidental suicide and would rather clean up the scene before calling the cops and say he killed himself on purpose rather than he was trying to heighten his masturbation. Death by autoerotic asphyxia is almost entirely a 12-25 year old male problem and usually happened when the person was alone. Since many AeA accidents are caused by heart attacks before the person even loses consciousness the only benefit to having another person around is 911 is called.

 

These days young males are teaching each other to play “chocking games” by filming it and posting to YouTube and other sites. Unfortunately, these hormone driven youth are without the common sense God gave them and think nothing bad will happen while getting a sexual thrill though strangling.

 

Speaking of a lack of common sense, a friend of mine who works in an ER told me about another kind of AeA. Auto(mobile) Erotic Asphyxia caused one night by a young woman giving a BJ to the guy while he was driving. He hit a deer, and she accidentally bite through his penis. The car then crashed down a ravine where the couple was knocked unconscious. The woman suffocated due to the penis getting lodged deep in her throat and the man died from bleeding because no one saw the crashed car until dawn. If you want to get a hummer in your Hummer, pull over or do it in the back seat. Orgasms aren’t worth dying over.

 

Comments and suggestions are always appreciated. Send your emails to glory@askglory.com or printz@usm.edu with “Attention: Glory” in the subject line.

 

 


Originally published April 11, 2007 in the Student Printz

 

This article was written at the request of a reader who had just lost a beloved uncle due to an autoerotic asphyxiation gone bad. I sincerely hope that this article opens the door for others to more openly discuss this subject matter and therefore prevent other senseless deaths.
 

 

About the Author:

 

Glory Fink is a writer, a housewife, a purveyor of euphemistically romantic materials, a photographer, a mystery wrapped in an enigma covered in cashmere. She can be found playing with Shrodinger’s cat, traipsing through the back roads of the Mississippi Delta or concocting experiments in her lab/kitchen. Glory does not suffer fools gladly but will gladly suffer endless tours at the Ben & Jerry’s ice cream factory as long as the samples keep coming. She does her best writing in her pajamas and her best sleeping out of them. Glory’s cat is suspicious, her dog obliging and her husband humored by her many antics and efforts to become in reality what she is in her imagination.

 

Glory can be found living it up in Hattiesburg, Mississippi in a quaint (read: 19th Century era dilapidated) house in a newly historic district but still less reputable side of town with her husband/best friend, a miniature dachshund,  and one cat who isn’t. The the outside cat came with the house; he is not a pet as much as ninja. Please feel free to email or call on Glory any time, her life could do with a few more interesting people.

 

Copyright © 2007, Glory Fink

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The Burger – Oct. 3-16 Horoscopes By Glory Fink

Posted on October 4th, 2007 in Article Links, Non-Sex Articles by Glory

Oct. 3-16 Horoscopes
The Burger
By Glory Fink

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) Beware of evil whisperers who whisper in men’s ears, Libra. If you hear rumors or gossip that outrages you, chances are you’re being setup. Check out the real facts before organizing that demonstration, my little revolutionary.

(Go to the website link to read the rest…)

Hattiesburg American-USM sex columnist gets sacked

Posted on September 17th, 2007 in Article Links, Welcome - News - The 411 by Glory

USM sex columnist gets sacked
By NANCY KAFFER

The writer of the University of Southern Mississippi’s controversial sex column has been fired, but the newspaper’s editor says she plans to keep the dirty talk coming.

Student Printz editor Ashley Bryan wrote in a Sept. 13 column that longtime Pillow Talk scribe Glory Fink would no longer pen the column, which will continue to run in the paper.

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Bedding Your Best Friend

Posted on September 13th, 2007 in Article Links, You and your friend(s) by Glory

Bedding Your Best Friend
By Glory Fink

This article is also available on Ask E. Jean’s FANTASTIC website under the Top Campus Columnists section.

“Never have sex with anyone you’re not willing to raise a child with,” my dad told me when I was 14. I now gift this advice to you, my savvy readers.

This one bit of advice did more for me in my life than just about anything else I ever learned. Late at night I would ponder the mysteries of The Universe, especially how to have fun sexual adventures with someone good enough to raise kids with while avoiding all those awful scenes friends were having in high school I called, “How Could You Do This to Me?!” dramas.

Even in the remote areas of Mississippi where I grew up, we heard about “friends with benefits.” Was it possible to have sex without any strings? No melodramas. No heartaches. Friends with benefits sounded like a great idea if only it was true.

By the time we get to college, expressions like: “Friends with Benefits” (FWB), booty calls, and the classic one-night-stand, are well known. The idea of women and men having non-commitment sex for fun and pleasure with no strings attached is often seen on TV and movies.

Casual sex is not a modern phenomenon. It’s been going on for eons. Who wouldn’t want a good friend and a side order of sex and no hassles? No jealousy, no ownership, no obligations, no headaches.

If you’re the kind of person who forms deep, emotional attachments quickly, FWB is not going to work for you. Remember that in a commitment-free sexual relationship, the other person is free to have sex with anyone they want, whenever they want.

You are using condoms every time and getting tested ever six months, right? No? I haven’t been slaving away in front of this computer for 13 months trying to write about what you want to read just for you to enjoy the controversy without even considering my advice. What? Yeah, I thought you were just teasing. You will go to the Health Clinic ASAP, right?

You’ve given it some thought and now have someone in mind. Stumped on how to proceed? Communicate, darling! Open thy mouth and talk. Use this column or find another and ask them what they think about the FWB idea. Get a copy of Tom Wolfe’s “Hooking Up” and use what you’re reading to launch into a conversation. Then say something like, “Ever thought about doing it yourself? Think it could work for us?”

Once you get the green light, hash out the details. Will any of our mutual friends know about this? Will we hang out together, go to the movies or is this strictly a midnight booty call thing? Who is going to provide the condoms, lubes or rubber chickens? What about a threesome? Remember, anything you two don’t talk about in an open and honest way will eventually rear its head in the form of an argument or even cause the end of your friendship. Talk first, get it on later.

I’m going to warn you about a pitfall of FWB’s. When I transferred to Hattiesburg to attend USM, I didn’t know anyone and I had just extracted myself from a disastrous relationship. I was looking to make friends and thought a nice fling would perk me up. One particular person I met soon became my best friend. At the right time I popped the question, “Ever thought about having sex without any strings attached?” We talked about it for weeks while we made out.

Everything went well for a good while. Then slowly we both realized we wanted to spend eternity with each other. Last April we celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary. Next month we will celebrate meeting at a USM football game nine years ago. When you choose a great friend and add sex, it either will work well or could be a disaster and you’ll lose a good friend in the process.

Be careful, be cautious, enjoy life.

Comments and suggestions are always appreciated. Send your emails to glory@askglory.com with “Attention: Glory” in the subject line.

Playboy launches sexy social network

Posted on August 26th, 2007 in Article Links, Welcome - News - The 411 by Glory

Playboy launches sexy social network

By Ashley M. Heher, Associated Press
CHICAGO — Playboy is heading back to school to boost the bottom line. Riding a wave of renewed popularity among consumers around the globe, Hugh Hefner’s Playboy empire is set to launch a sexy social networking site dedicated solely to college students, its latest online venture as it tries to reinvigorate its stagnant finances.
The launch of Playboy U, which has similar features to those found on Facebook, comes as Playboy’s 54-year-old magazine continues to lose money and readers.

To compensate, Chicago-based Playboy Enterprises is embarking on a one of its biggest expansion efforts in years.

“This is one brand that is relevant to 18 through 81-year-olds,” said Scott Stephen, executive vice president of operations for Playboy’s entertainment division. “We’re looking at this as a way to introduce and escort someone through their adult life.”

Playboy has cozied up to collegians before, featuring parties, promotional events and pictorials of student bodies from across the country. Now, executives hope Playboy U will help build brand loyalty among young consumers.

Read more…

Playboy U
What do you think? Do you know anyone who is using this website? Is it just an excuse to see a lot of cleavage and pictures of drunken frat boys?

Polyamory article in its entirety

Posted on July 4th, 2007 in Article Links, Polyamory by Glory

“Lovers are like roses-best by the dozen.” -Barbara La Marr

The articles I post are my original versions. Below there is link to the Student Printz online issue.

Pillow Talk: Polyamory: A build-your-own-love kit

Polyamory: A Build-Your-Own-Love Kit
By Glory Fink

The winds of change are blowing, my darlings. Already our country is preparing for the 2008 Presidential Campaign, China’s stock exchange is affecting Wall Street and North Korea has agreed to neuter their nuclear program in exchange for banking privileges and food.

On a more local level the face of suburbia is changing. More couples than ever are concluding that monogamy doesn’t work for them and they are doing something about it. No, they aren’t getting divorced. In fact, Mom and Dad are getting a new girlfriend or boyfriend. Now, Mom, Dad and girlfriend/boyfriend are called polyamorous.

Polyamory is a new word to identify a type of romantic relationship older than marriage itself. Polyamory is best described as “loving more than one”. You may have heard of polygamy, which is a marriage involving one husband and multiple wives. Or even polyandry, a marriage with one wife and multiple husbands. HBO’s “Big Love” and Will Smith and Jada Pinkett’s open relationship aside, polyamory is not tied to marriage or even restricted to male or female dominated relationships.

Polyamory is not swinging, where committed couples simply engage in recreational sex with other committed couples. Nor is polyamory cheating. To cheat, someone must break the agreed upon rules of a relationship. In a polyamorous relationship everyone in the relationship not only knows about everyone else but also agrees to everyone’s involvement and the rules of the relationship. Completely open and honest communication is the key to a successful relationship no matter if it is a polyamorous or monogamous one.

Perhaps the idea of this relationship is not new to you. You may have already fantasized about being in a loving relationship where you weren’t forced to choose between two wonderful people and jealousy wasn’t the name of the game. Since Victorian times monogamy was held up not only as an ideal but as a moral imperative. The civilized world believed that a person only had a limited amount of love to give and so he or she should give all of that love to one person.

This view is similar to money in your wallet. You only have so much money and you can’t give more than a specific amount. But love is not analogous to money. Any mother with several children will tell you that she didn’t have to divide her love between her children but rather as her family grew so did her supply of love she had to give. Polyamory contends that romantic love is similar and that the heart, mind and soul can adequately love more than one person at a time.

“Let’s say all your life, for breakfast, you’re eating from a Kellogg’s variety pack. And then you don’t get the variety pack. You pick one. Your favorite one. And you just get that one from then on. Every day, for the rest of your life, the same cereal. And then you wake up one morning, and you’re just not hungry anymore,” said the character Ed in the movie “City Slickers”.

Well Ed, polyamory says you don’t have to buy just one cereal for the rest of your life. You can even buy the full size boxes of your favorite cereals and keep them in the house together. No longer will the box of Fruit Loops wonder if you’re secretly buying boxes of Apple Jacks on the side. Now, Fruit Loops and Apple Jacks can live in harmony in the same kitchen secure in the knowledge of your love. But how will they react when you explain that you recently realized your love for Honey Smacks, also?

Polyamory isn’t for everyone. Some people simply need to feel like a one-and-only to someone else. But monogamy isn’t for everyone, either. Sharing your life and love with more than one person at a time is possible but go slow and make sure in your heart of hearts that this is right for you and your loved ones. If you are not true to your self in a relationship then it is not a true relationship.

Links and literature suggestions about polyamory can be found at AskGlory.Com. Your feedback and article ideas are always appreciated. Email us at printz @ usm.edu or Glory directly at glory @ askglory.com.

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“Sex Column Controversy” article link

Posted on May 10th, 2007 in Article Links, News in The World, Welcome - News - The 411 by Glory

University of New Orlean’s newspaper Driftwood

Sex Column Controversy

Judy Morgan
Copy Editor

On September 7, 2006, Printz, the campus newspaper at the University of Southern Mississippi, published the first installment of an informative sex column covering topics related to modern sexuality, such as date rape, safe sex, and romance tips. “When our paper started our sex column Pillow Talk, we didn’t think anything of it,” says Adam Chance, opinion editor of Print.
However, despite the paper’s efforts to run a tasteful, educational column, dozens of the school’s alumni say the column is too graphic, and place it in the same category as porn or Hustler magazine; some wrote letters to local newspapers and television stations. “We have received hundreds of angry letters from them,” said Chance.
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Glory Fink, the author of Pillow Talk, gives another reason for this widespread lack of sexual knowledge: families are spending less and less time together, so many children are not getting “the talk” about the birds and the bees at home. “This has left the children of those families learning about relationships and sexuality through television, movies, and the Internet,” said Fink. “The problem with all of these medi[a] is that there is rarely a sensible voice offering a common sense viewpoint.”
UNO sophomore Alex Zimmerman agrees that sex columns in college papers fill a specific need for many students. “I think a sex column is a great way to pinpoint some of the main issues college students deal with,” said Zimmerman. “I am definitely interested in reading what others have to say about sex and their sexual experiences, because it would help me cope with, or at least feel more comfortable with, my experiences as a college student.”
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Anal Sex Links (work in progress)

Posted on May 8th, 2007 in Article Links, Welcome - News - The 411 by Glory

I’m in the process of moving so I am not entirely sure where I packed my stacks of research on anal sex. As I find the stacks I’ll update this post until they are all listed.

CDC’s 2002 National Survey of Family Growth: Sexual Behavior and Selected Health Measures: Men and Women 15–44 Years of Age, United States, 2002 (PDF)

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